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For God’s Sake
May 29, 2005 | Filed under: Bitching

“Difficult not to feel a little disappointed and passed over when I've looked right through to see you naked and oblivious. And you don't see me. A Perfect Circle - 3 Libras”

God really has nothing to do with the post I’m about to make - in fact, the post could potentially prove that there is no God, for any merciful lord would spare me the pain that I go through when it comes to having female friends. I love them all, really, but they drive me crazy with some of the idiocy they frequently express; but yet, dear readers, why do females always exclaim how much they hate the males of the species, when clearly we ourselves have some serious issues that need addressing? Why?! Bear with me as I divulge to you how screwed up females can be.

So every girl out there seems to be in their own everlasting search for the “perfect” guy, their Mr Right, the one nice guy that’s going to throw themselves at her through the midst of chaos that is the “typical male [arsehole].” We all want to be swept off our feet, treated like goddesses and have the “’till death do we part” fairytale relationship, right? So why the hell do we end up going out with such arseholes? Think for a moment. How many girls do you know who have been waiting around for Mr Right to show up, and they settle with a loser who they secretly know is going to use and abuse them? They let themselves be put into a potentially disasterous situation, they give their everything to this scum and then when it inevitably ends, they cry “I didn’t want to do it, he forced me into it,” and “I didn’t know he was like that, he was different when I met him.” Why is it that there are so many of the “nice guys” out there that are simply ignored because, “I wouldn’t want to ruin our friendship,” or “He’s too nice to date.” I mean, what the fuck? You now don’t want to go out with a really nice guy, because of your friendship with him (which, by the way, the best relationships come from those which start out as friendships, in my opinion), or because he’s too nice for you? The contradictory loser alert is flashing ten to the dozen, I think it might be you.

I’m going to roughly paraphrase something that actually happened offline to sum up just what I mean:
Girl: Should I go out with *guy*? I’m not sure.
Male friend #1: I’ll flip a coin for you. Heads you go out with him, tails you don’t. Okay, it’s heads; go out with him.
Girl: I can’t do that! I want some serious advice. Male friend #2, what do you think?
Male friend #2: I happen to know he’s a bit of a dickhead, I think you’re going to get fucked over.
Girl: Oh but he might not… I really like him…
Male friend #2: So go out with him.
Girl: But I don’t want to get hurt..
Male friend #2: So don’t go out with him!

*ahem*

Stupidity about choice of male companion aside, there’s another issue about females and dating that bothers me. Once the candidate has been decided, he’s a reasonable enough acquisition, you find out through relatively good authority that he may have feelings for you too - what do you do? You certainly don’t start playing hard to get! You don’t get your cousin’s friend to act as though he wants you bad so that the other guy is going to get jealous and fight for you. You don’t try to obviously talk to a whole heap of males in front of him because a) who cares if you’re talking to another guy; b) it’s just going to give the guy you want to get with a whole heap of mixed signals, and; c) it’s kinda immature, you know? You also don’t spend months getting your [very patient] friends to over-analyse really short, meaningless chit chat that you have with this guy, just to make sure he has feelings for you. If you really want to know, why don’t you ask him youself? Oh, yeah, that’s right - it might ruin your blossoming friendship. Yeah, the one where you learnt how to say a feeble “Hi” on the way to class without running away.

To sum up: as a gender, females tend to criticize males of being sex-crazed, quick to screw a girl over, and users. Why do we settle for people who aren’t going to treat us right? Is it that we too, as crazy as it may seem, crave some physical attention? Do we not after a long period of time without that physical attention, no matter how lust-orientated it is, want to feel like we’re wanted again? The males that are users only use because we allow them to use us. If they weren’t getting any out of it, why would they do it?

Composed by Melissa at 12:28am · 3 Wrote in

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